Showing posts with label regret. Show all posts
Showing posts with label regret. Show all posts

Monday, September 24, 2012

Time Alone

'alone' photo (c) 2010, nfarmer - license: http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nd/2.0/On my days off I have a lot of time alone. Most of the time this is not a problem, however I have days when my time alone is spent thinking about my sister. Today while cooking dinner my mind drifted back to the day she died. I was doing the same thing, standing at my kitchen counter and preparing a meal. When my mother called and told me Erica was going to the emergency room, I never for one second thought she would die. I went about making dinner. Now, knowing the conclusion to the story, I wish I would have dropped to my knees to say a prayer. Just another regret!

My time alone reminds me that I'm still grieving Erica.

Monday, September 10, 2012

If I Had Only Known

Erica & Andrea, 1981
Each day I think about my sister. The passing of time has not taken that away. It has been a year and a half since Erica passed away. My heart still drops and tears well up in my eyes when I think back to the day she died. The thought comes to my mind....."if I had only known," there would be many things I would have done differently, if I had only known. I would have called, sent a text or an email, a little more often, if I had only known. I would have made sure I said what needed to be said, if I had only known. In my mind we were going to grow old and get gray hair and have plenty of time to do sisterly things together but, I was wrong. Now, each day I live with that regret and the thoughts of what should have been.   

Sunday, June 26, 2011

The Flower Lesson

One of my friends on facebook posted something similar to the below words for Father's Day in remembrance of her Dad.  I revised it to read for my sister.

If roses grow in heaven Lord, then pick a bunch for me. Place them in my sister's arms and tell her they're from me. Tell her that I love and miss her, and when she turns to smile, place a kiss upon her cheek and hold her for awhile....
Flowers from Erica's Memorial Service

During Erica's memorial service it dawned on me that I never sent her flowers.  I sent her cards on occasions but never flowers.  I know they can be expensive but sometimes when people are going through a hardship receiving flowers can be a great way to cheer them up.  This was another lesson I learned, don't wait to make others happy when you were blessed with today.